time....

Time flies.....always. I can't believe it has been two months since I posted on here--it seems days ago. It's been ten weeks since i started teaching, and, although i don't have panic attacks anymore (at least daily), i still feel as if i'm in a whirlwind. Sometimes it's all i can do to stay sane--i'm not sure i feel as if i'm actually teaching them anything. I SINCERELY hope i am--but sometimes i don't know. I ask myself over and over again, "What do I want them to really get out of this? What do I want them to learn?" and sometimes the answers to those questions aren't easy things to teach--what do i REALLY want them to learn? I want them to learn respect, the value of an education, the value of a life, the repercussions words easily said and not easily taken back, and, I remember myself saying this to people before i started teaching, how to love reading. But HOW do you teach those things--i mean--really, ideas would be helpful!!! And here's another one--how do you inspire students to WANT to learn--how do you light a fire under a kid that really doesn't give a flying flip about grades (if i have to hear "i don't care" ONE MORE TIME today....)??? Candy only goes so far! How do you let a child go--sure "No Child Left Behind" sounds great--but, as most parents know, there are some things you CANNOT FORCE on a child--I can only give them the tools--i cannot make them learn. When does it become their responsibility????? The students that have parent involvement will always turn in homework--or at least most of it. I can call them, and they will back me up. But for those who do not, who are in an institution, or whose parent(s) are so busy trying to help them survive with food and shelter to have time to worry also about their education, my remonstrations fall on bleeding ears. So here I am, Sunday night, trying to give myself a pep-talk. "Leigh," I say, "You go in there tomorrow and be excited--tell them they WILL learn today. Smile more. Laugh. Connect with their life" But who knows how i'll feel by 3:30. Is it terrible that i often feel like our public educations system is being held together with duct tape and fairy dust? I love the grit--i love these kids--i see they need help--but sometimes-----i too surrounded by "great ideas" and "reality" to really make this work.

So tomorrow--i will march in there--and hand out a sparkly wand (oh yes, 8th graders still love toys) and a tiny plastic trophy, and I will say, "You people are stinkin awesome--and you are gonna change the world!" because I hope that I can too.

hello???........

Ok--so I'm not sure anyone ever reads this anymore--since it's been over a MONTH since i last posted, but if you do, here's an update. I'm a teacher now--in case ya didn't know--i know--it's a bit crazy to think of me in a classroom. My kids are lovely--ha ha--well--they're kids, so they have good days and bad days. I teach 8th grade English at the middle school (jr high?) in Macon county (Franklin). It's an adjustment from the expected high school teaching, but it's going well so far! I'm not quite into the swing of things yet, still having to catch my bearings some days. Some afternoons I wonder why i do this--but come evening and some sleep, I always remember my students fondly. :) I just want to teach well--i'm still trying to find my teaching personality with these guys. I hope that I get better at it--right now I feel kinda like i'm flailing, but I'm just gonna keep plugging away--asking lots of questions, and doing my best!

I think the hardest part is the hours. With Dave gone three days a week, and then me working when he is off, it often feels like we're passing in the halls (though we don't really have any of those, lol). The long weekend was really wonderful, and I'm working hard on trying not to bring work home on the weekends.

We officially have a babysitter now--ok ok--DOGsitter. She comes on Tuesdays and Wednesdays to play with the dogs a couple of times during the day, as those are my late nights. I leave at 6:30 am and don't usually get home till after 6:30 pm on those days. Hoping to have late nights when Dave does. Anyway--that's the update. Now--I gotta take a shower and get to bed! I'm exhausted! :) NIGHT!

firsts

Yesterday I kayaked the Ocoee for the first time. It's a pretty big river, class 3's and 4's. I'm not quite sure i was totally prepared to kayak those classes, but I thought I should step up my game and push myself, so I went for it! Two good friends here took me down and guided me through each rapid (I generally avoided the class 4's by taking sneak routes, i need to get a bit better before i hit it full on). I have to say, it started with a bang! I swam (came out of my boat) the very first rapid-which was a doozy by the way--lost my paddle--but finally swam to the side with my boat. I was shaking all over! It was definitely the biggest class swim I've ever done. I didn't get cut up too badly, but I got some minor cuts and bruises; feeling it today for sure! After that I was pretty nervous. My friend Tyler gave me his paddle to use (you're awesome dude!) and he found a normal raft paddle (yes, one sided), and did the whole rest of the river that way! My adrenaline was still pumping pretty good as I ran the rest of the river--biggest waves I've ever paddled through--but it was fantastic! Super, SUPER fun. So--my day of firsts went like this:

--First swim in a class 3+ rapid
--First time losing a paddle
--First time paddling a class 3+ river
--First surf and consequential combat roll in big water
--First time FINDING my paddle (a nice raft guide returned it at the end of the day)
--First time hitchhiking (had to get back to the car park up river)

As I was riding in the back of that truck on the way to the put-in at the top, I couldn't stop smiling! It was such a fantastic day, and I KNOW I will paddle it again--though I may walk past Grumpy's (the first rapid) to start for quite a while. WUHOO! It was awesome.

summer

In the summers I get to live a slightly different life. My friends may or may not believe there is a God, there is no social acceptability except that you are true to yourself and love people, and I don't get looked down upon when I curse (which, coincidentally, happens more often in the summer). Every summer I almost wish I could melt into my summer world. A world where things are simpler, raft guiding and work drama, and most of all have fun, well, that's all there is. I have made some true friends this summer--friends my heart already has a special place for--friends I won't quickly grow out of--i love them deeply even though it's only been a few months. I've been reading the book "Blue Like Jazz" for the first time this summer, and it's really meant a lot to me. But what pushed me to write this morning was a specific passage:

The real issue with Christian community was that it was conditional. You were loved, but if you had questions, questions about whether the Bible was true or whether American was a good country or whether last week's sermon was good, you were not so loved. You were loved in word, but there was, without question, a social commodity that was being withheld from you until you shaped up...If you wanted to be valued, you became a clone...There was love in the Christian community, but it was conditional love. (Blue Like Jazz pp 214-215)

Why is it that we Christians have the hardest time with that: love? TWO THINGS--that's it, just two things Jesus said were the things to live by. "LOVE the Lord your God with all your heart, and LOVE your neighbor as yourself." Last Sunday our associate pastor spoke on just that--our job is to LOVE, just love. Why can't we love lesbians, gays, republicans, democrats, and all races on earth??? I love my God, I love that HE loves me, little ol me, who's screwed up more than a few things in life. I thank Him daily that He blessed me with a wonderful guy who feels the same way about Him. But my main job, is to love like Jesus loved while he was here--eating with the unclean, loving the unlovable, and remembering that those Holier than Thou people are in that category too. Love. K--now I'm gonna go kayak the Ocoee--you should start praying now :)

TO DO:

-wash clothes
-hang clothes out (PLEASE DON'T RAIN!!!)
-take dogs to park
-go grocery shopping (when Dave came home last night he said, "you REALLY don't like shopping do you?" "No--why do you ask?" "Cause there's no food in the house" "I eat a lot of hummus and bread :) ")
-wash dishes
-get clothes off line
-fold clothes
-pay bills
-take trash and recyclables
-give blood @ 5:45
-meet dave and head to going away party for friends

That's what my day looks like---or SHOULD look like. Now I must just get off the couch and start doing it!

checked off:

Movies watched so far:
Iron Man 2
Robin Hood
Sex and the City 2
Letters to Juliet


So far none have impressed me too much. Thinking of watching Prince of Persia, but since i never played the game, i'm not sure i'm really gonna get it. I did like Robin Hood; i thought it was a nice take on an old tale--it was really more of a prequel to the usual story. I feel like I watch a lot of movies when Dave is gone--but most would say I watch a lot of movies period, and I would probably agree. My life at the moment is odd to me. When Dave is gone I feel like I lose motivation to get stuff done. I mean, I do stuff with other people and I go to work, when needed, but house work kinda falls through the cracks--maybe i'm becoming a bachelor :). I do tend to hang out with more single people when he's not around, it feels weird to hang out with our married friends by myself. We play a lot of Settlers, watch movies, and drink coffee. It's fun though. It almost feels like I'm back in college, the first time, just finding my footing on my own. I do hate sleeping alone though, especially when my duplex mate is gone. I feel restless--like I just can't figure out what i'm doing right now. Work is slow, applications are coming up with nothing, the only positive i'm getting is from Gaston, and that's not anywhere near here--or more importantly--Dave's current job. What is it I'm supposed to be doing right now? Guess I feel a bit purposeless since SA.
Well--i've been sitting on the couch for far too long. Dishes need to be done and I'm heading to see Dave this evening and we're spending the weekend out in A-ville. Signing off.

Enter Summer Movies!!!!

So last night was the kick-off to my summer movie season. Iron Man 2 was the first one of my list, releasing last Friday (May 7). I was pretty excited about this movie--the first one was so kick-ass, how could i not be? A big-name cast of actors including Scarlett Johansson, Gwyneth Paltrow, Samual L Jackson, Mickey Rourke, Robert Downey Jr, and the amazing Don Cheadle, made me think this was going to be even better than the last. Unfortunately, I was sadly mistaken. First, there were millions of tiny plots throughout the movie that just didn't go far enough. It seemed almost as if they never really had a main story line, but chose every piece of writing available and put it all together just to make a second movie. Second, the characters, new and old, weren't developed enough. That in itself was surprising to me because even Tony Stark wasn't delved into in this film, especially the relationship with his father that could have been a great thing. The only character I felt was really fleshed out was the villain, Ivan Vanko, played by Mickey Rourke. As everyone knows action/comic book movies NEED a good villain, I'd say the writers weren't doing anything out of the ordinary there. The new character, Natalie Rushman (played by Scarlett Johansson), was so under written it seems should could have been written out! Was Pepper (Paltrow) just not sexy enough that you writers were trying to interject some "ooh la la" to the film? Because Paltrow can be sexy--just give her something to work with for a change (and where did that scene with her kissing the helmet go anyway???). Third, and lastly, it was just anticlimactic. The final fight scene was over in about 15 seconds, while the robot chase scene lasted forever! I mean, it could be summed up by saying, "Ok Rhodey (Cheadle), Flying V " (enter Chariots of Fire theme song)... BAM--they win! All that to say--Iron Man 2--you let me down. Oh well, Robin Hood, you're up next. Don't disappoint me (but I mean, it's Russel Crowe, it's gonna be good, or at lest sexy ;).

I am Eustace

I am Eustace. The Lion has cut me deep. I have shed layer upon layer until I finally reappeared. Others recognize me for who I was, yet I cannot find her anywhere. Each layer was painfully lanced off, but it was only necessary. And yet, I have returned to a foreign land, not from. I look around and I see nothing that is of worth to me. I return to a trade I don't believe in, to a people that don't believe in me. I look in the water, and it scares me what I see. Will I just go back? Will I not learn from these pleasant tattoos upon my soul??? I prepare for the season whilst my heart flutters desperately, urging me to listen to its flailing beats. Daily there I lived with too much purpose, too much worth, overflowing use. The cries of the helpless--their ceaseless need made me often unhinged, but without it I ached to know their necessity. Everyone around me seems to be moving forward on the right foot, but none of my shoes fit. This change, this evolution has left me stranded in a strange state. I wait by the roadside for the bus to the new world, but everyone keeps passing me by. I cannot live without it anymore--I have tasted purpose, being, selflessness, smiles, hugs, kisses, momentous occasions, miracles in tiny hands and feet. I cannot go back down the rabbit hole of unconsciousness...but where will I go...I fidget to stop the tears...where is the bus?

I'm BAAAAAACK

So by some freak chance I actually got on the plane on Saturday. I wasn't even going to go! We had all just gone to see The Blindside--which just hit SA--and i had thrown all my stuff in the back just in case we decided to swing by the airport. It was pretty much the worst packing job in history since it was the 3rd time that week. I hadn't taken a shower, applied make-up, or picked out my clothes especially for the plane....so of course i got on (all greasy and everything--so lovely!). When we arrived at the airport--maybe 30 mins before the gate closes--I meandered up to the check-in desk to check out the situation. The first thing that caught my eye was the lack of about 30 people milling about hoping to get on the plane. I thought maybe they had already told them to go home. I did see a girl I had seen 5 days previous trying to get on though. So she and I, her name was Kate, stand at the check-in desk and chat up the lady. It's all very casual, I don't really expect to get on, we laugh and joke, and then she says, "I decided a while back to let you guys on." My heart starts beating erradically, SERIOUSLY??? She's joking right? Kate and I both ask the same thing. I hadn't even packed my carry-on with care! I mean--whatever i couldn't get in my bag I just stuffed in! The lady at the gate--how I do adore her--hands us our tickets and says, "Go straight to the gate!" My hands are now shaking--my head is not processing this yet. I rapidly hand Hannah (my roommate in SA at DOH) my keys to the room and SA cell phone. "Ummm--goodbye then!" I say. I hug her and try to get all my stuff together. This is our 3rd trip to the airport together--it feels like a ritual we're breaking now--kinda sad actually!--no late night McDonalds together as I text to Beth, "didn't get on--see ya tomorrow!" I finally get all my stuff together and Kate and I run off gleefully into the hordes of security to make our plane. I jump into the fast-track, high class line (there's like MILLION people in the other and we won't make it if we wait behind them). They glare at me, but I don't care, cause I'M GOING HOME!!! I convince the dude in that line telling me to go back that I cannot go to the other line--my plane is LEAVING. He concedes, though I think he just does it cause it doesn't look like he has a choice, or maybe he just doesn't care anymore (it is 9 pm at night). Kate and I make it through SA Customs, Security, and more security, and finally get to the plane. She looks at our tickets--Are these first class???--she says. I say I don't like to think about it until we're there. They were first class--we were even sitting right beside each other! Her first trip in first class--she was SO PUMPED--me too obviously--and it was fun to show her what all the buttons did, get Mimosas together, and then check out the menu--yeah--on a plane, lol.

So now I'm home and awake in the wee hours of the morning. I awoke at 4:30 this morning, though I wrestled to stay in bed asleep, I finally gave up about 5:30. I walked around our apartment and wondered things like--why don't we have a small lamp i the living room? has our microwave always been black? do we have any coffee? Gotta say, it's an odd sensation to be home. Lying in bed listening to Dave's breathing was so comforting. Too bad he has to leave for 8 days this morning, but at least we're on the same continent, even the same country and state! :) As I write this i'm in my new pj's I got from my mom for Christmas. I forgot we left just after Christmas, it seems like ages ago! My dogs are cuddled up beside of me, sleeping on the couch....My babies would just be getting up from their naps now--Mr Whiney Pants is crying cause that's what he does, my Biggest Boy is smiling and getting into everything, Big D is always ready to eat....I wish I had cuddled them all just five minutes more, but it wouldn't have been enough.

not gone yet---here's the deal

When you’re flying standby, and the people behind the desk tell everyone (all standbys) to gather round, it’s not a good thing. Last night, after getting all ready to go home, we were told no non-revs (or standbys—people who don’t make them any money), were being allowed on the plane. After that, getting re-ticketed to try again tonight, we were told the seats were SOLD OUT for the rest of the month. I’m not sure how large a percentage the flights are allowed to be overbooked by, but whatever that is, those “seats” are sold too. It’s never good when you look up a flight known to exist and it doesn’t show up. Some people there had already been waiting 2 to 3 days and hadn’t gotten on yet because…. Delta is flying cargo—not people. That means, when there’s cargo weight that can be put on (people who bring too much and then have to pay dearly for it), they put the cargo on instead of the non-revs for the simple fact that it makes them money and we don’t. All understandable really, it’s what we signed up for—a cheap flight with no guarantees—but if they are going to do that for a week or more, they really should let people know!

So, I am number 20 on a list of 27 standby passengers to fly out tonight—with supposedly 40 seats available. However, that doesn’t include the cargo, so I guess we’ll so how it goes ☺. Right now the plan is as follows. First, try to get out tonight, God willing. Second, stay until the first week in April (around the 3rd or 4th), then fly out then when it looks better. Choosing this option would also allow me to see more of Africa, as I will have to vacate the country for a few days because I can’t stay longer than 90 days in one stretch. I will probably head to Swaziland for the weekend.

Last night I slept restlessly—as soon as I got back from the airport I immediately started looking up the prices for tickets to Raleigh, Atlanta, Charlotte, or Knoxville. The lowest I could find was around $1,000. I was so distressed! The lady next to me in line to change her flights said, “Honey you won’t get out this month like this. I tried for four days one time—if it’s sold out it’s not happening…Go to Paris—they have 10 flights out a day!” I looked at Paris by the way—it’s true—but it’s still not cheap. This morning the light looked better, though I still felt daunted by the task at hand and a little lost without Dave’s guidance and comfort. I looked for flights again this morning—nothing new (though if I wanna spend another $1,000 I can go home via Amsterdam and spend 21 hrs there—cool idea—not so cool price).

I wandered out of the room I am now sharing with my new friend Hannah, and Beth told me to get in the van, we were taking the kids to swim lessons. Normally I’m not allowed to be with the toddlers, new people make their lives more chaotic than necessary, but today she could see I was down and told me to “come on.” Watching them laugh and play in the water, splashing and kicking, it lifted my spirits. I came home and dug into the Word, needing some wisdom and comfort from my Savior. I finished reading Matthew (the crucificition of Christ, even though he was resurrected, didn’t lift my spirits well). Then I prayed that God would give me a passage that would comfort and guide me. I looked at the index and was drawn to Hebrews chapter 13. As soon as I started reading those words, tears fell from my eyes. Verses like, “BY NO MEANS SHALL I DESERT YOU, NOR IN ANY WAY SHALL I ABANDON YOU…THE LORD IS A HELPER TO ME, AND I WILL NOT FEAR…JESUS CHRIST IS THE SAME YESTERDAY AND TODAY AND INTO THE AGES” Came pouring from the pages. Oh how GOOD my God is! I praised Him for listening to my poor murmurings and flutterings of my heart and comforting my soul. As the Aunties constantly repeat, “God is good AL THE TIME…” and His mercies are new every morning.

So, no matter what happens tonight—if I go or stay here until April, I know my God is with me and He will comfort me. Maybe my work here is not done (though I didn’t appreciated it yesterday Catherine—I do today ☺ ). Thank you all SO dearly for your prayers—please DON’T STOP praying—especially for Door of Hope ministries. I don’t know what I would do without my family’s prayers. Also, a huge “thank you” goes out to my mom—as she took my biggest worry off my plate concerning what to do with out dogs. Mom, you are so gracious. I love you. PS—this doesn’t mean you have to keep the dogs till Easter ☺ Dave will call you and work it out.

A few of my fav. S. African things

 

Things I will miss when I return to the U.S. of A. (per request by Carey)

1, The sound of my babies' cries in the morning--I know that's an odd thing to miss--but I can tell each baby by their cry
2. Each and every one of my twelve babies--and those that have already been adopted
3. Big moments--ie first steps, smiles, solid foods, etc
4. Their laughter
5. My boy that I became especially fond of--Mr Whiney Pants--Beth pointed out I tend to attach to the whiney ones (I love an especially ornery baby last time as well)
6. Beth--my best friend
7. the sight of Dave holding a baby
8. the unique art work here
9. the warmth and sunshine of a S. African summer
10. the Aunties/Uncles I have come to love so dearly

A few of my favorite things

 

things in my dreams recently:

Foods I am looking forward to on my return—hint hint MOM—it was would be SO amazing if you had numbers 1-7 in the house for me even though you’re leaving for camping the next day ☺ (cause you’re just awesome like that!) :
1. Fruity Pebbles with regular tasting milk
2. grill cheese & tomato soup
3. chips
4. Dr Pepper
5. pancakes & syrup
6. eggs
7. cheese grits
8. BBQ from Log Cabin—and hush puppies too—OH—and a cherry lemon sundrop! OMGness!
9. Nutty Buddy bars
10. sushi!!!!!!!

Things Leigh should remember when she gets back in the U.S. of A.

1. if you pick a baby up by the arm (even if done correctly by grabbing them at the socket of their shoulder, which won’t pull the shoulder out or hurt them), people will think you are a bad person and you are hurting the child—don’t do it.
2. you are not allowed call down other people’s children in the supermarket—even though you had 12 that were not quite yours for 2 ½ months.
3. in turn you are not allowed to “smack them like a ho,” them being the mothers that are allowing their children to do whatever they want in the supermarket, even though it would probably help them greatly.
4. you should add those silly little words back into your sentences that make it easier to converse. They are often called determiners (a, an, and the), and common nouns. Though Aunties/Uncles understand you better without them, you are now going back to a mostly English speaking society.
5. just because they do it that way at Door of Hope baby house, doesn’t mean it’s the only way—and you don’t have kids of your own yet—so people don’t really respect your opinion on baby raising anyway—just nod and smile, nod and smile
6. do not eat pasta for a very long time as it has made up most of your diet while here. Convince people you need comfort food and they should cook it for you (pssst—I want oatmeal cookies, Chinese food, lots of veggies (not frozen), and pancakes, and waffles, obviously not in the same meal)
7. you love S. African coffee with chicory in it—make sure Beth brings some with her on her trip home, or seek out some in the States, though you shouldn’t hold your breath about it having the same level of amazingness.
8. Dave likes brown babies—figure out how you can get one ☺
9. Remember it’s possible to work long, 11 hr days, and still want to see the people the next week—especially if you can convince them to speak in cute gibberish, not drool or get sick on you, and never have to change their nappies
10. If God can do amazing things like get rid of HIV in small babies, he can change your life in dramatic, awe-inspiring ways, and even know the exact job that would bring you the desires of your heart—be patient—it may take longer than 3 months.

An Appeal to your beautiful souls:

I only have two more weeks here at Door of Hope (orphanage for abandoned babies), Dave leaves today, and what an adventure we have been able to experience. But as the two weeks comes to a close, so may one of the baby houses here. There are two baby houses (and also a toddler house), the one where I am, and baby house two. Baby house two is the most recent, and dearly needed, addition to Door of Hope. Since I have been here, even with this new additional house, we have turned away almost a dozen babies because we are full and cannot handle more with the resources we currently have. Door of Hope (DOH) has less than two months of running costs left in their accounts. As the economy here has turned to the excitement of the 2010 World Cup, so people’s minds and pockets have turned away from the financial state of DOH and houses like ours. Cutbacks have been announced to the local staff here—and positions that are quite needed, may cease to be. The Aunties and Uncles here have hit their knees in prayer for the cause of these little ones, we ask that you do the same. My prayer is that God will miraculously bless DOH in a way that gives all the glory to Him. Please pray this along with me. If you would like to donate to Door of Hope, please go to their website, holeinthewall.org.za, or contact me or Beth Maennle, and we will be glad to put you in touch with the right people. Thank you for you time and your diligent prayers. God Bless you.

Swim time!

The big 5---4 boys and a girl--they get everywhere and into all sorts of trouble, but they sure love the water!

 

ilias--(pronounced Elias)

My boy--he had to go to another home because we are full--but when they came to pick him up they were so in love with him. I know he will be well taken care of there--but i still miss that little old man face, even if i only got to hold him for such a short time.

 

hospital run

i took my first hospital run the other day. A boy in our special needs area stopped breathing, and Beth and I had to rush him to the hospital. this was my journal entry I wrote throughout the day as I sat by him in the ER:

My hand are shaking--having a hard time telling the difference between his heart beat and breaths--i need to focus--i ride in the back seat with a semi-conscious baby in my arms--i shake him often--violently--his breaths are shallow and far between--hazards flashing--car flying--getting nauseous is not an option. He stops breathing --i flip him over and beat him hard on his back--a small gasp--back over and shake him often when his eyes start to glass over. "Come on buddy--stay with me" We fly into the Er and Beth jumps out--he's not breathing again--she grabs him and runs into the hospital...

A few hours later I sit alone--same emergency room--he's breathing with oxygen now--the cries often slacken to a dull lambs bleat--he's hungry & isn't allowed to eat--being pricked with needles once again, he wails. "Just get it in this time" I want to yell! The drip line has come out & they've tried to put it back two different spots in his head and another in his tiny arm. I've only seen a couple official doctors since we arrived-mostly interns for the last while--once- while pricking him again for more tests--precious red drops spilled while they fumbled with the vials--laughing that they were glad their superiors weren't there at that moment--no gloves on--he screams on. A new shift surrounds him--STILL trying to get his drip line in--two different people have tried so far--supposedly the professionals--i want to cry with him--the nurses are abusing the last shift in mixed languages--they try again--he cries so hard he goes silent--it doesn't take...the boy is gonna look like a pincushion soon--almost 7 months and just a small thing--tears stream down my soul as his bleating rises with each pierce. "If you're squeamish you can wait outside," they say. I'm not leaving him. "I'm fine." After at least half a dozen tries...at last. Night shift comes and i'm relieved of my duty. Possible surgery for him the next day and probably more needles. I leave exhausted--I don't know how people do this day after day.

Lucy

 

oh the babies we love

It is a unique experience—falling in love with a child. Especially when you know that child will never be yours, and it will leave you at any moment. Seeing Dave cuddle is little girl this morning, seeing his face as he takes in her days old hands and feet, her curly hair, her perfect heart-shaped face, and knowing that he will never see her again, it’s like nothing I’ve experienced before. She is going back into the system because her family is still involved, though whether she’ll ever see them again, and whether that’s the best thing for her….it’s out of Door of Hope’s, and our, hands.

You think you would get tired of being around babies all day, that you couldn’t possibly want to go up and see them on your day off—but you do. I mean, being with 12 babies for 11 hrs a day is exhausting, and i do get TIRED, oh so very tired, but I still want to wake back up and see them the next day (though not quite so early if it’s my day off).

My daily grind when working goes a little something like this:
1) 7:00 am--get the bathroom ready for all the bathing (towels in place for everyone, enough wash clothes, lotion/oil for skin/hair ready, make sure there are wipes)
2) pick out clothes (I admit, I really like this part, and I take longer than most cause I want to pick out the cutest outfit for them to wear that day—most Aunties don’t even care if the babies are wearing matching, much less the right sex, outfits)
3) start bathing the one who’s crying (though leave them if it’s one of the crawlers as they’ll just crawl over all the small babies while we’re bathing the others)
4) once bathing is over (usually takes a little over an hour to bath & clothes 12 babies),
start the feeding process, again with the ones who are crying or youngest, we don’t feed the oldest till last as it is more likely they’ll take a morning nap that way
5) after the feeding process is over, usually takes about an hour and a half or so, play with the babies until 10:00 am, then send them off to bed for nap time (anywhere between 10 – 12)
6) repeat feeding process adding baby food for lunch and dinner with the older 7.
7) play, sing, read, dance, sometimes swim (with the oldest), and generally intereact with babies until 4:00. As well as constantly changing poopy & wet diapers, wiping up massive puddles of spit-up, and trying to keep the bigger ones from hurting the smaller ones.
8)4-5:30 repeat feeding process.
9) 6:00—end of work day. try and muster the courage to do something for dinner other than cereal or McDonalds.

I can’t wait to see his little face. He may be here today or tomorrow, but my Ilias (I’m pretty sure that’s what I’m gonna call him), I already love him. From the moment I knew I was getting to name a baby, an honor I never thought would be bestowed on here, being here such a short time, I was excited for his arrival. I may not get to see him too often as he might be at the other house, but I will go there as much as possible to see that little face. I cannot imagine that I will feel any differently about my own children. I’ve been told it is greater, the intensity, but if you could see how Beth and Stephanie (the baby care manager here) act towards these children, you wouldn’t say that. These ARE their children, and they love them so much the more because they know they will have to let them go, for better or for worse, in the near future. They are only ours but for a short while, so we love them, with all our hearts, while we can.

Shark diving day

 

For Landon--thought you would enjoy this

This is how our shark diving boat go into/out of the water :) Nothing runs like a deer eh?

 

Drakensburg Mtns pics

 

spaceless

When you have about 6 x 2 of walking space to share with your husband—bed, dresser, and closet taking up the rest—you learn what you’ve been overlooking at home. Leaving clothes on the floor becomes very irritating. Tidiness seems ABSOLETLY essential (to the female obviously). At home, he had his side of the bed and you had yours. What he did with his side was basically up to him. The occasional stacks of clothes you could turn a blind eye to—the unwashed dishes—there was space for them—the random screws, nails, coins, etc laying in small piles all around the house—no problem. But when there IS no space, conversations about these former insignificant things take place pretty often. They usually go something like this:
1)Do you need these screws?
I might.
2)Are you done with that book—can it get put away-aka can YOU put it in it’s place?
Sure (aka—go ahead!).
3)Are these clothes dirty?
That’s why they’re on the floor.
—I attempt to put them in the dirty clothes bag—
Wait—they’re not washable dirty—they’ve just been worn before!
4) Do these live here?
Why not?
Because there’s no room for it here—why can’t they go with the rest of your clothes?
Because they’re there.

Yes—living with your spouse in a one-room location for two months sure can get interesting…let’s just hope he survives ☺

lowering my standards of hygiene

When I know that the only people to impress while working are babies and the occasional person dropping off donations, I rarely bother with the formality of make-up, mirrors, or matching (the Aunties already think I’m weird for eating peanut butter on my apples as well as pb & banana sandwiches). The only reason I change my shirt daily is because I really do get tired of smelling like baby vomit (fresh vomit is bad enough, I don’t need day-old vomit). I wear the same shorts three days in a row (they’re not as close to my nose and therefore don’t warrant the smell change). I stop washing my hair but for my day off, or if I happen to be going out that night (not to the grocery shop of course—even though it’s in the mall—that’s too much trouble for not enough time). These are the things I lay out to get ready in the morning: yesterdays shorts, new shirt, flip flops, hair tie, lotion (it’s incredibly dry here even though it’s the rainy season), vitamins (trying not to get sick and therefore get all the babies sick), water bottle, watch (have to write down everything about the babies—when they ate, what, how much—when they peed/pooped), and room key (though I lost that today, so guess that’s not on the list anymore—I’m pretty sure the chair in the baby room ate it), and my current book (I’ve read 3 in the 2 weeks I’ve been here and on my 4th—I get to read on my coffee and lunch breaks—and my days off when there’s really not all that much else to do, since I can’t drive here). It takes me about 10 minutes to get ready cause all I do is dress, pull my hair up in a ponytail, and brush my teeth. I have become ADDICTED to the instant coffee here. When I go up for breakfast the first thing I do is put the kettle on to boil. All the coffee here is mixed with chicory, and I LOVE it! I drink maybe 1 cup a day at home and rarely finish them—I drink at least 3 here down to the last drop!
I wake every morning about 5:30, cause that’s when the sun comes up. I can usually fall back asleep for the next 50 minutes before my alarm goes off at 6:20 to get up and get ready for work. I am off today and still woke up early, guess it’s a good thing I go to sleep before 10 pm! Anyway—I’m famished and need to get up and go get some food (and the yummy coffee of course!). Then Maybe I’ll snuggle back in bed and watch the rest of the 1st Harry Potter movie I started last night ☺. Love and miss you all!

Overall Sunday Best!

 

Alive and Well--from the rainy season

A week and a half we’ve been here now, and I know all my babies’ names by heart. I can tell you who needs to eat later and who likes her bottle very hot (very picky of her if I do say so myself ☺). I know who always needs more attention, and who plays well with others or alone. I know the boy who can’t be let out of your sight for one minute or he’ll be crawling all over the little ones, stealing their toys and pulling their hair. I have worked 4 ½ eleven-hour days this week, and I’m TIRED, but today seems to be flying by. Everyone but my problem sleeper boy took a nap this morning (poor boy—singing, cuddling, rocking—nothing seems to work and he’s so mad he can’t stand it!), a miracle of large proportions. I love them—each and every little face! We got a new set of twins in last week—they were only 4 lbs each and already one month old. I never thought I would hold babys that small, much less feed them, but now it seems to come naturally and I barely think about them being too breakable to touch. Honestly if you could see the way the aunties (and now I’m doing it too) pick these babies up, you would think their arms would come out of their sockets—but no—their just fine! The durability of children amazes me every day! Just today I heard someone saying one of our little ones was 18 months old, and the doctors said she wouldn’t live past a year! Steph (the baby care manager) said, “He doesn’t know the God we serve!” AMEN!

Onto a little about us: we are getting to know our way around the place, or at least Dave is. As the Eddy females last of direction never ceases to amaze me, I can’t seem to figure out anything but how to get to the mall (you laugh, but it’s only 3 turns away and that’s where we shop for groceries too)! Another volunteer is leaving today, which leaves just three of us here at the baby house. I can’t imagine what it would be like being the only one! We get together quite frequently on our days off. They recommend you get off base on your day off as much as possible, otherwise you burn out quickly. I could see it for sure—as much as you love the babies you need time without them to recoup! Dave is working at the toddler house today—fixing something I think, not really sure. The Aunties are all quite taken with him as he’s constantly working and fixing things for them—they are always asking me, “Do you know where Uncle Dave is,” so he can fix something. We haven’t done anything too extraordinary yet, other than getting locked in the game park (yes the one I posted pics of on FB), but it was fine ☺. We both got rather burnt that day though, I’m still recovering, hoping it goes quick so I can get back into the patchy sun. It rains daily here (it IS the rainy season), but then the sun will come out brilliantly and hot (it’s 72 at the moment). We are hoping to take a weekend trip soon when we’re both off (I get every other weekend—and working 3 days on, 1 day off). Anyway—that’s all for now—it’s long enough—sorry about that! Don’t forget to get online at 1:00 pm on Sunday to chat or skype! We miss you all!

The FUN has ARRIVED!

Hey all! Well, we’re here! We arrived about 5 on Saturday and were greeted by Beth and little baby girl G (I’m not supposed to post the names, sorry, I slipped on FB, won’t happen again). Dave fell in love with G immediately and has been with the babies as much as possible since we got here. It’s been pretty rainy—it gets really stormy this time of year, so hopefully we’ll get some nice days soon. As we got here almost week earlier than previously intended (we told the director we would arrive on the 5tth or 6th), we are not on the schedule yet. So, we’ve been running errands, getting our room set up (we’re in bunk beds, but they come apart pretty easily, so we’ve been putting them up every morning and down every night), and helping with the babies in between. This will be like Dave’s orientation week I suppose. He did change a baby right away (he keeps forgetting which way around the nappy goes), but not anything serious yet ☺. Today Dave fed a baby—he got an easy one (he ate his whole bottle, no fuss, and burped without being “burped”)—and held a new, preemie baby girl that came in this afternoon (we actually got three new babies today, 2 girls and 1 boy—two weighed about 3.5 lbs, an average for the DOH babies). After Dave meets Uncle Collin tomorrow, the all-around-fix-it-build-it-guy, and finds out what he’ll be doing while he’s here (along with caring for babies), we’re most likely heading to Bruma (an amazing place of wonder, excitement, culture, and food from every continent), a HUGE open market. Later this week I’ll be training Dave how to bathe, change, and dress babies. I gotta say, I think he’s doing rather excellent, as he had NO interest in doing any of these things in the States. Who knows; maybe we’ll have babies after all some day! ☺ Well, that’s all for now. I’ll keep you updated, though pictures will come less frequently as they take a long time to upload. Love you all!
L

We're away!

Well: It's been awhile since I posted our trip news. And it might be a few days till I tell you more, cause WE'RE LEAVING TODAY! So, before we leave, I wanted to give you our address where we'll be staying cause WE LOVE MAIL! So, without further ado:

15 Barbara Rd.
Glenvista, 2091
Johannesburg
Republic of South Africa

It only cost .98 cents to send a letter!

We'll be checking in soon, but I need to finish packing--LOL--hopefully soon!

Love you all and THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU for all your support!

much love,
Leigh & Dave